Feb 25, 2019
Sexy Spirituality Episode
Finding Your Spiritual
Sonia and Lezli learned a lot on their recent road trip,
including where to find the world's best gluten-free pizza (a truck
stop in Vicksburg, Arizona), American gas stations require zip
codes for gas machines, ear buds and ear plugs are different
things, and why you should believe a liquor store employee when
they say you don't want their wine.
Finding Your Spiritual Home
- There are a number of archetypes of people who come into a
spiritual center for the first time. Most people are a blend of
- The Spiritual Seeker: Looking for a community that shares their
same beliefs and language, where they can expand and learn.
- The Wounded: Something crisis-level has happened in their life,
and they are broken open. Looking for support, love and a safe
place to heal.
- The Skeptic: Looking to be convinced that this is better than
some other religion or community, but loves to criticize and find
- The Modern Traditionalist: Looking for a traditional spiritual
community experience (often for children or family), but wants to
avoid the guilt or judgment that they associate with more
- The number one thing that determines whether a person will come
back to a church or spiritual center is if they feel like they have
someone to sit with. In other words, did people say hello?
Were they welcoming? Do they feel like they could belong here?
- Well-meaning people can violently disagree on what makes people
feel welcome, because we tend to believe that what makes "us" feel
welcome is what makes "people" feel welcome. Hugs, handshakes,
having new people stand... all of these have their strong
proponents and opponents.
- It is the responsibility of center leadership to be very
intentional about creating a welcoming environment. This can
include a very clear path to involvement in the community that
makes space for varied levels of personal commitment.
- One way to mitigate this is to lean into the word "invitation."
This opens up options for people to be acknowledged without people
feeling cornered or embarrassed.
I am offering a workshop at the virtual Center for Spiritual
Living Vista Conference on Strategic Planning for Spiritual
Communities. March 6, 10:00 AM PST.
I am releasing a new book this month. "Built on Faith: Transform
Your Life through Affirmative Prayer" is the how-to on affirmative
prayer that I wish I'd had when I was learning. Whether you are
just starting affirmative prayer or you're looking for a great
textbook for your prayer classes, this is the book for you.
We'll see you March 4 for our next episode of Sexy Spirituality,
The Spirituality of Coupledom. Share your thoughts with us